Across the different social media platforms I have more than 25,000 friends and followers, yet I am lonely. I speak to all of them everyday and yet none of them really know me.
The problem I have sits in the spaces between looking into there eyes or a name on a screen. I took a step back and opened my eyes, I looked around an realized this media we call social is anything but; when we open our computers and it’s our doors we shut. All this technology we have is just an illusion, community, companionship, a sense of inclusion, yet when you step away from this device delusion you awaken to see a world of confusion. A world where we are slaves to technology we mastered, where information gets sold by some rich greedy bastard. A world of self interest, self image, self promotion. Where we all share our best bits but leave out the emotion. Where at almost happy with an experience we share, but is it really the same when there is no one is there? Be there for your friends and they will be there to, but no one will be if a group message will do.
We edit and exgarerate, crave aggregation, we pretend not to notice the social isolation; we put our words into order until our lives are glistening, we don’t even know if anyone is listening. Being alone isn’t the problem let me just emphasize, read a book, paint a picture, or do some exercise, your being productive and present not reserved and recluse. Your being awake and attentive and putting your time to good use.
So when your in public and you start to feel alone put your hands behind your head, step away from the phone you don’t need to stare at your messages or your contact list, just talk to one another, relearn to coexist. I can’t stand to hear the silence of a busy commuter train where no one walks to talk for the fear of looking insane. We are becoming unsocial, we are no longer satisfies to engage with one another and to look into someones eyes. We’re surrounded by children who since they where born have watched using living like robots and think its the norm.
It’s not very likely that you will make worlds greatest dad if you can’t entertain a child without the use of an iPad. When I was a child I would never be home. I would be out with my friends, on our bikes we would roam. I would wear holes in my sneakers and graze up my knees. We built our own clubhouse high up in the trees. Now the parks are so quiet it gives me a chill, you see no children outside and the swings hang still. There is no skipping, no hopscotch. No church and no steeple.
We’re a generation of idiots, just smart phones and dumb people.
So look up from your phones, shut down your displays. Take in your surroundings and make the most of today. Just one real connection is all it can take to show the difference that being there can make. Be there in the moment as she gives you the look that you remember forever, when love overtook. The time she first held your hand or first kissed your lips. The time you first disagreed but still loved her to bits. The time you didn’t need to tell hundreds of you you’ve just done because you want to share this moment with just this one. The time you sold your computer so you could buy a ring for the girl of your dreams, who is now the real thing. The time you wanted to start a family and the moment when you first hold your little girl and get to fall in love again. The time she keeps you up at night and all you want is rest. The time you wipe away the tears as your baby leaves the nest. The time your baby girl returns her child for you to hold, and the time he calls you granddad and makes you feel real old.
The time you have taken all you made just by giving life attention, and how your glade you didn’t waste it by looking down at some invention. The time you hold your wife’s hand, sit down beside her bed, you tell her that you love her, lay a kiss upon her head. She then whispers to you quietly as her heart gives a final beat that she’s lucky she got stopped by that lost boy on the street.
But none of these times every happened, you never had any of this, when your to busy looking down, you don’t see the chances you’ve missed.
So look up from your phones and shutdown those displays, we have a finite existence. A step number of days. Don’t waste your life, getting caught in the net. As when the end comes nothings worse than regret.
I am guilty to of being part of this machine. This digital world where we are heard but not seen. We type as we talk, and we read as we chat. Where we spend hours together with out ever making eye contact. Don’t give into a life where you follow the hype. Give people your love, not just your like. Disconnect from the need to be heard and defined, go out into the world, leaving distractions behind.
Look up from your phone, shutdown that display. Stop reading this post and live life the real way.